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"Why aren't guys romantic like they used to be?!?!" And the answer to why. ;)

   So the other day I found myself watching all my favorite classics (Ex: Pride and Prejudice)  mixed in with a few of my all time favorite Disney princess movies. Long and short of it all, I was a sobbing mess by the time I finally turned off the TV and I wasn't much better in the morning. In fact, I was worse in the morning because sometime late that night as I stared into the darkness thinking of balls, poetry, magic carriages, and how beautiful the word love is, something hit me. Something drastic and disturbing beyond words hit me that is. What was it, you ask? The comparison to how people viewed the word love “back then” and how people view the word love now, in the twenty first century. I don't know about you but I see a HUGE difference.

   I would like to say that the whole fault lies in the fact that “back then,” people's life span was a whole lot shorter than the average life span we have today and so people just took EVERYTHING more serious. Love included. But sadly, I can't just end there as I know there are other reasons to why “back then” was LOADS more romantic than today. 

   I don't know when this happened but we girls have completely lowered our standards. And as I have talked about before in this blog post of mine - http://www.godgirl.com/profiles/blogs/benefits-of-keeping-those-sta... - keeping our standards high is VITAL to gain love and respect. From anyone really!

   You see, people care 100% more for the things they had to WORK for rather than the things they got for free. I want you to REALLY think about this. Once when I was eleven and every penny I owned mattered a great deal to me, I bought myself this designer purse that cost me $20. That very week was my birthday and a very amazing friend of mine gave me a $50 designer purse. Looking back at the two purses years later, you can definitively see which one I cared for the most. Though I greatly appreciated the purse my friend gave me, I wasn't half as careful with it as I was with the one I bought with my own money. And can you guess why?

   Guys work this same way with girls. The more he WORKS for a girl, the more he will PRIZE that girl and TAKE CARE of her. Because all the sudden, HE has invested in that girl and so like I cared all the more for the purse I worked my summer for, will he care about the girl. (Plus, it is a straight forward fact a guy will respect a girl a whole lot more for not throwing herself at him.)

   The problem I see in us girls is that just a few sweet words and a couple of roses win us COMPLETELY over these days. Guys barely have to lift a finger to earn our love and THIS IS A PROBLEM. And not only for ourselves and hearts, but for guys as well. You see, giving a guy all of you without him working for it just feeds the biggest problem guys have these days. Which is guys don't respect us girls in the way they used to and therefore, don't treat us the way we deserve.

   Because we girls are so easy to break down and win over these days, guys don't respect us half as much as they used to. Because allowing them to have us without having to do any work, they all the sudden CAN'T SEE how much we truly are worth. Just like how I didn't see the worth of my $50 purse.  I didn't do any work for it so, I didn't care that much for it.  At least when compared to my cheaper purse which I did actually have to work for. 

   I talk more about how important self respect is in the blog post of mine I posted (look ^) so you can go there if you want more on this topic. I pretty much wanted to write this follow up because love to me shouldn't be just taken as lightly as it has been "these days" and I hope I am not the only one who feels this way.

   Today, so many relationships seem to be built up on poorly spelled texts that don't have much meaning behind them if any at all, Friday nights at cheep restaurants, and phone calls that don't last more that thirty seconds. Watching all those classics just really made me wish to be back in the days when love was this wonderful and magical word that people didn't take lightly.  When WE GIRLS were these wonderful and magical creatures that people didn't take lightly!  (Ourselves included.)  When guys called girls “beautiful” and “lovely” instead of “hot” and “sexy.” When holding hands was just as special as a kiss is today, if not more. When opening the doors for us girls was not just done on “big dates.” And when a guy would NEVER (absolutely never) let a girl pay for half the bill after HE ASKED HER OUT.  (That happened to me once and...yeah.  I ended up paying the full bill and never talked to him again.  Or at least avoided him like the plague.)  I wonder if he has gotten the message yet...  

   Anyway! Sorry this is so long and hope you got something from it!  God bless!

REMEMBER: You were WORTH DYING FOR. (!!!) And so you are DEFINITIVELY worth having a Prince Charming win his way into your heart as well as an award winning "...happily ever after."  Don't let anyone tell or treat you different!  Someone Worth Dying For - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oW9pyQ7cb0M

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Comment by Roxanne on April 15, 2013 at 4:55pm

One word: Breath taking.

Thank you so much Leorah for this gem!  You have no idea how much it has helped! 

Comment by Lee on January 2, 2013 at 6:15pm

Thank you so much you all! ♥♥♥

And Leah, you are so right about that!  I think that guys like that are different for the fact that they usually are gentlemen to begin with and won't use you.  But that is definitively something to think about! 

Comment by Abigail Leah on December 29, 2012 at 9:20pm

I love this! It's awesome! The only problem is how to avoid pursuing a guy when you really really like him, and he's great. I'm talking strong Christian, kind, funny, generous, hardworking... 

Comment by Jordyn Kenyon on December 19, 2012 at 4:40pm

Thanks soo much for sharing this! This is soo true  and i totally understand we are soo worth more then how all the guys treat us. and I totally agree with you Raquel:)

Comment by Mackenzie Lauren Hansen on December 17, 2012 at 8:18pm

Really good... thanks for sharing

Comment by Lee on December 8, 2012 at 8:28pm

Okay so...wow!  I was not expecting this many comments but I couldn't be happier!

Thank you so much all of your for feedback girls.  The fact what I wrote means something to you means more to me than I could EVER express to the bunch of you!  So thank you so much for all your amazingly nice comments!  Each one means so much to me and know I am uber grateful for them AND you!  Thank you all so much - you have all truly made my week for me!   


Comment by Samantha Trujillo on December 7, 2012 at 2:07pm

I agree with all of you. I have Pride and Prejudice on DVD and i was thinking the same question every time i watch it.

Comment by Kara ♥ on December 7, 2012 at 1:51pm

The post is soooo true and I loved it! I actually had that very question in my head after I watched Pride and Prejudice a few months back. 

Thanks so much!  

Comment by Kathryn C. on December 6, 2012 at 7:45am

Thanks so much for writing this blog

Comment by Lee on December 4, 2012 at 11:34am

Thank you so, so much Akintola!  By the way, I love your name! 

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