So the other day I found myself watching all my favorite classics (Ex: Pride and Prejudice) mixed in with a few of my all time favorite Disney princess movies. Long and short of it all, I was a sobbing mess by the time I finally turned off the TV and I wasn't much better in the morning. In fact, I was worse in the morning because sometime late that night as I stared into the darkness thinking of balls, poetry, magic carriages, and how beautiful the word love is, something hit me. Something drastic and disturbing beyond words hit me that is. What was it, you ask? The comparison to how people viewed the word love “back then” and how people view the word love now, in the twenty first century. I don't know about you but I see a HUGE difference.
I would like to say that the whole fault lies in the fact that “back then,” people's life span was a whole lot shorter than the average life span we have today and so people just took EVERYTHING more serious. Love included. But sadly, I can't just end there as I know there are other reasons to why “back then” was LOADS more romantic than today.
I don't know when this happened but we girls have completely lowered our standards. And as I have talked about before in this blog post of mine - http://www.godgirl.com/profiles/blogs/benefits-of-keeping-those-sta... - keeping our standards high is VITAL to gain love and respect. From anyone really!
You see, people care 100% more for the things they had to WORK for rather than the things they got for free. I want you to REALLY think about this. Once when I was eleven and every penny I owned mattered a great deal to me, I bought myself this designer purse that cost me $20. That very week was my birthday and a very amazing friend of mine gave me a $50 designer purse. Looking back at the two purses years later, you can definitively see which one I cared for the most. Though I greatly appreciated the purse my friend gave me, I wasn't half as careful with it as I was with the one I bought with my own money. And can you guess why?
Guys work this same way with girls. The more he WORKS for a girl, the more he will PRIZE that girl and TAKE CARE of her. Because all the sudden, HE has invested in that girl and so like I cared all the more for the purse I worked my summer for, will he care about the girl. (Plus, it is a straight forward fact a guy will respect a girl a whole lot more for not throwing herself at him.)
The problem I see in us girls is that just a few sweet words and a couple of roses win us COMPLETELY over these days. Guys barely have to lift a finger to earn our love and THIS IS A PROBLEM. And not only for ourselves and hearts, but for guys as well. You see, giving a guy all of you without him working for it just feeds the biggest problem guys have these days. Which is guys don't respect us girls in the way they used to and therefore, don't treat us the way we deserve.
Because we girls are so easy to break down and win over these days, guys don't respect us half as much as they used to. Because allowing them to have us without having to do any work, they all the sudden CAN'T SEE how much we truly are worth. Just like how I didn't see the worth of my $50 purse. I didn't do any work for it so, I didn't care that much for it. At least when compared to my cheaper purse which I did actually have to work for.
I talk more about how important self respect is in the blog post of mine I posted (look ^) so you can go there if you want more on this topic. I pretty much wanted to write this follow up because love to me shouldn't be just taken as lightly as it has been "these days" and I hope I am not the only one who feels this way.
Today, so many relationships seem to be built up on poorly spelled texts that don't have much meaning behind them if any at all, Friday nights at cheep restaurants, and phone calls that don't last more that thirty seconds. Watching all those classics just really made me wish to be back in the days when love was this wonderful and magical word that people didn't take lightly. When WE GIRLS were these wonderful and magical creatures that people didn't take lightly! (Ourselves included.) When guys called girls “beautiful” and “lovely” instead of “hot” and “sexy.” When holding hands was just as special as a kiss is today, if not more. When opening the doors for us girls was not just done on “big dates.” And when a guy would NEVER (absolutely never) let a girl pay for half the bill after HE ASKED HER OUT. (That happened to me once and...yeah. I ended up paying the full bill and never talked to him again. Or at least avoided him like the plague.) I wonder if he has gotten the message yet...
Anyway! Sorry this is so long and hope you got something from it! God bless! ♥
REMEMBER: You were WORTH DYING FOR. (!!!) And so you are DEFINITIVELY worth having a Prince Charming win his way into your heart as well as an award winning "...happily ever after." Don't let anyone tell or treat you different! Someone Worth Dying For - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oW9pyQ7cb0M